Me and my ex split up over the most stupid things and i still really like him ,help?
i am in ur situation…
ill tell u what worked for me…. at first, i called him, texted him etc etc but it didnt work, he just moved further away… guys tend to get irritated when we cling to them.. so DONT CLING… call him, talk abt general stuff…. or text him sometimes…
my ex knew dat i was crazy abt him so he ignored me all the more.. den later, i acted as if i dont need him n thats when he came back…
so my tip, dont overdo it…but at the same time, keep contact… n flirt once in a while… n sometimes, tlk abt ur happy tmes too… coz guys r really dumb, stupid reason or no, its always jus the reason that matters….
anyway, if it was for stupid reasons n if ull really liked eachother, ull r destined to get back!! good luck 
Yes she is my ex wife. and we have been split up for 8 months. well she drove across country with my 3 kids just so she could be with me again. I do love her but in my heart i was done with her. but I opened my heart back up and we got back together. Well since we have been back together. She told me that she has been with like 20 guys since we were split up. I have been with one other female. I know we were split up and that shouldnt matter but it hurts me to know that she was out there like that. I mean what would you guys and girls do? Would you just say screw it and end the whole thing. Cause truthfully each time we have sex its exactly that….just sex. Its not special any more at all. Its like someone else just pissed all on my territory. But I dont have room to talk cause I was with someone else too.But I dam sure didnt sleep with 20 girls. And if I did I wouldnt tell her cause it would just hurt her and make things worse. Just like she did me. I just dont know.
This is why, in the Bible, it states that once a spouse has “laid” with another person, that spouse is now “soiled” and is “unclean”, and that you are not supposed to “lay” with her ever again.
Never settle and never be settled for. Just because she drove across country to be with you, with your children, does not means she loves you more than her own life. It may be that she was running from something…..bills, ex boyfriends, no life, fear….etc.
If there is NO emotional connection…..which makes the sexual connection disappointing…..than do not settle because you feel obligated to her just because she “drove” across country to be with you. The two of you should be each other’s best friends and have ultimate trust. And considering that she was with so many guys, regardless of the fact the two of you are divorced, that brings up the question of whether you can truly trust her and her motivation in “wanting” to be with you.
Some women go from man to man in search of themselves, they usually have a low self esteem and are hoping that through sex, they can get a guy to fall in love with them……only to realize that she settled and than she goes to the next guy.
It sounds like your ex has a very low self esteem and, absolutely, no self respect. Just think what your children had to endure while they watched their mother “date” several men. She provided no stability for them. How sad.
Having sex with an ex is one way to determine if the relationship is over……and it sounds like it is. You can not MAKE love and forgiveness happen…..and marriage should never be a struggle….it takes work, yes…..not struggling.
So, honestly, I do not believe your ex is with you because she loves you……she is with you because she needs you to provide a safe harbor for a while till she doesn’t need you anymore.
A person needs another person because he/she loves that person…..You are not supposed to love someone BECAUSE you need him/her……..
The saying goes: “I need you because I love you….not I love you because I need you.” There is a huge difference.
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I broke up with my ex 8 months ago. I am just curious if there are some ways or things or anything that I can do to get her back. Maybe not right away but maybe some time down the road. I still love her and she is seeing someone else. I will take any and all suggestions. HELP!
The odds are against it, but if you can show her that she’ll be happier with you than the new boyfriend you’ll have a good chance. Being thoughtful will go a long way toward showing her that. Even if it seems hopeless, don’t give up.
If it appears she’s moved on, still send her a card you wrote just wishing her a great week. But don’t look as if you have any expectations. Your thoughtfulness might really impress her.
If you spent your relationship rarely doing thoughtful things, or you only did them in the beginning, she’ll probably doubt the things you do now. Just be patient, and keep up your efforts. Don’t appear frustrated or angry. Do the thoughtful things because it feels good to make her happy, not because you’re working toward a goal.
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my boyfriend of a year just broke up with me last week. I need to find the absolute best way to go get him back. what do I say or do? help? suggestions?
Hi
Winning back your ex boyfriend is not easy at all. It is a lot easier to generate feelings in someone, than it is to change their feelings. But if you do the right things, and more importantly don’t do the wrong things, your chances increase dramatically.
if you desire to get your ex back then these 3 simple steps should help achieve your goal:
1.The first tip is to get your head straight. You need to get rid of the negative thoughts. You have to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You have to be willing to be strong.
Don’t let your emotion and of course your depression keep you down. You can’t achieve the goal, if you can’t keep your emotions in check and your mind clear. Negative thoughts are destructive behavior and you need to avoid them.
2.Don’t pester your ex boyfriend. Guys just don’t like it when girls become obsessive about them. Especially ex boyfriends. You may want to seek comfort by hearing his voice or seeing his face, but if you really want him back, you must back off for a while. Don’t continuously make phone calls to him, send emails to him, or go to his place or where he hangs out just to see him. You want to give him time to realize he may have made a mistake. He may begin to actually miss you and want to get back with you. If you blow it, you may have a tougher time getting your lovely ex back.
3.Become an object of desire. If you can, it will be great to get some new makeup. You will also want to get some new clothes and a new hairstyle. If you’ve picked up a few pounds, start exercising and try to eat healthy foods. When on the outside, you’re going to start feeling better about yourself on the inside. By feeling good on the inside you will be confident and happy. When you’re confident and happy, others will easily see it. You will become an object of desire to men, including your ex.
These tips were helpful for me to get my ex boyfriend back.However, if you really want to get him back I will recommend to get good guide on how to get your ex back. You can learn about the most popular and reliable guides in this helpful blog:
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Hope it helps.
Think please, to tell me what a man can do to regained your heart…i am so desperate..please help me
Hello
Winning back an ex is a very difficult thing to do. It is a lot easier to generate feelings in someone, than it is to change their feelings. But if you do the right things, and more importantly don’t do the wrong things, your chances to win her back increase dramatically.
Here are helpful steps that helped me to get my ex girlfriend back:
Don’t Ask Your Ex Girlfriend To Get Back Together
You should never ask your ex girlfriend to get back together. Why? Simple, because her answer will be NO!
You’re only shot at getting your ex girlfriend back is to do the right things that will make her ask you to get back together. Maybe if you broke up with her, then you might be able to be the one who brings up the subject of getting back together. But if you can do it without, it would be much better.
But how do you get someone back without seeming desperate? In order to get your ex girlfriend attention, you have to show value without telegraphing your interest in her, while at the same time initiating interaction.
So don’t ignore her texts and calls when they break up with you. It screams that you are so devastated by the breakup that you can’t even handle talking to her. You want to respond to her, but do it in the right way. You can even initiate communication if you do it in the right way.
You have to maintain a strong frame of confidence, and show your ex girlfriend that your happiness isn’t dependent on being with her.
Being Jealous Is Not The Way To Go
You must understand that …SHE IS GONNA DATE SOMEONE ELSE. Let that sink in good. And not only is she gonna date someone else, it will probably be someone you know, maybe even one of your friends. Tough to swallow I know. It’s ok if it bothers you, but don’t let it show and don’t call her out on it. Remember, you are not together anymore, and you don’t have any right to tell her what to do.
If you do want to win her back, then you just have to weigh the decision.
Being Flexible Is Very Important
Do not be that stereotypical angry ex. Do not throw out their stuff or demand for them to come pick up their stuff right now. Rather be flexible, easy-going and understanding. A person who takes things easily is an attractive quality in itself. It may inspire your ex girlfriend to start communicating with you again faster then you might think.
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I hope you will get your ex girlfriend soon!
Ok so ive heard the same thing numerous times. Does this really work? If ignore my recent ex bfs calls and dont act sad, will that really make him miss me? I swear like 1000 people have told me this. Does it really work? If i dont act interested?
I think it does work..
A lot of people believe that there are ways for getting your ex back!
There are some things you can do or not do that will increase your chances of getting back your ex.
Here is a great website on how to get your ex back. Check it out if you are interested:
http://www.exbackguides.com/
If your ex-wife cheated on you and left you, tried to take the kids away from you, flaunted her lovers in front of you and your kids and has rebuffed every effort you have made to get back together in the last four years, would you give her a chance four years on if she said she then wanted to work things out?
This has happened to the guy I was seeing, he just bought new house and his ex heard the kids raving about it and came over then said she wanted to see if they could work things out.
He said yes and I am out of the picture.
I just want to know if this is the typical reaction for most guys?
Would you take your ex-wife back under these circumstances?
If so, why, what reason?
If not, why not?
I would really like some insight because right now I feel pretty used and very naive.
My ex-wife didn’t cheat. But I would not take her back if she would have. I’ve been divorce going on 10 years. The marriage was a short one. I have not been re-married, she has just divorced her 3rd husband, I was her first. But for the longest time I felt like failure, not able to keep my marriage. I think it men sorta feel that way. It took me awhile to realize that maybe I wasn’t the only reason for the divorce. Now seeing she has divorced yet again, I can safely assume she was at fault too.
My boyfriend and I broke up over a week ago and I just noticed how much I still love him. I am pretty sure he still has feelings for me, but how do I know for sure???
Hi
Winning back an ex is a very difficult thing to do. It is a lot easier to generate feelings in someone, than it is to change their feelings. But if you do the right things, and more importantly don’t do the wrong things, your chances to win him back increase dramatically.
If you want to win your ex boyfriend back check these 3 recommended steps:
1.one of the most important things is to get your head straight. You need to get rid of the negative thoughts. You have to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You have to be willing to be strong.
Don’t let your emotion and of course your depression keep you down. You can’t achieve a goal, if you can’t keep your emotions in check and your mind clear. Negative thoughts are destructive behavior and you don’t want them..
2.Don’t annoy your ex boyfriend. Men just don’t like it when girls become obsessive about them. Especially ex boyfriends. You may want to seek comfort by hearing his voice or seeing his face, but if you really want him back, you must back off for a while. Don’t continuously call him, email him, or go to his place or where he hangs out just to see him. It’s very important give him time to realize he may have made a mistake. He may begin to actually miss you and want to get back with you. If you blow it, you may have a tougher time getting your lovely ex back.
3.Become an object of desire. If you can, it’s recommended to get some new makeup. You will also want to get some new clothes and a new hairstyle. If you’ve picked up a few pounds, start doing some exercises and try to eat healthy foods. When you look good on the outside, you’re going to start feeling better about yourself on the inside. By feeling good on the inside you will be confident and happy. When you’re confident and happy, you will project this image to others. You will become an object of desire to men, this includes your ex boyfriend.
You can find other great tips on how to get your ex boyfriend back in this useful article:
http://www.squidoo.com/How-To-Get-Your-Ex-Boyfriend-Back-Fast
With all the books and information on the internet, is there truely an effective way someone can get there ex-girlfriend back? Only true answers, please no move or the past is past. Thanks.
Scott is right about all women being different…
However, there are definitely techniques you can use that work to "attract" your ex girlfriend back to you, such as, how to act, when and how to make contact, avoiding critical mistakes, etc.
For men wanting to win a women back, you must learn how to attract her back to you. Here are some tips:
* Never EVER act or sound desperate and needy. Women will view this as a sign of weakness – and it can ruin your chances of getting her back.
* Even if you have to fake it at first, be easy-going and happy when you talk to her.
* Be confident & make sure she see’s you as a successful guy who is on a path to a making a better life for himself – despite what happens between the two of you.
* Be aloof, but do not play hard to get. Don’t always be immediately available for her – women love a hint of mystery in men. Making her wonder what you’ve been up to is very powerful!
* Never rush into getting back together to soon. For example, if your ex girlfriend calls you upset, crying, and says she misses you and wants to see you, what would you do?
If your answer would be to agree with her and jump into your car to go see her… then please check out this video showing why this would be a critical mistake
Here => http://howtowinbackex.com/help-me-t-dub-video-2/
The video explains EXACTLY why acting on one weak moment (even if it’s your ex who’s asking) can kill any chances of reuniting.
HTH! Warmly, Aligurl
I love my ex boyfriend so much and I know that we should give it another try.. he doesn’t know I feel this way, although I do know that he isn’t up for another round–what do i do to prove that we are good together, we are really good friends (which also adds to the complication)
Take a look at what happened to make it go sour. Some things you cannot change, that’s just the way it is and you should be prepared for that. If you feel that it can work, look at what you can do to make the situation more sustainable. Talk you your es, if you can get him to sit down with you. Be as honest as you can be, but don’t beg. He needs to also come to realize how much he misses you. That might not happen, but don’t force it.
